Honestly Its the Audacity for Me

Diversity. I hate that word. For a long time I didn’t understand why, but yesterday it finally dawned on me. Diversity has been morphed into a band-aid solution to the problem of lack of willingness to move beyond ourselves and our realities to understand others’ realities and act accordingly.

I hate it here. If you know me, you know I don’t like to use the word hate, instead opting for the term ‘ highly dislike’.

I hate constantly having to teach. I hate the erasure of Black people unless it’s in pop culture. I hate that the only time my people are recognized is for non-joyous reasons. I hate being made to feel like a token. I hate stupid jokes about diversity when that is VERY FAR from our reality. I hate that professors can use racial slurs with the excuse that it is included in the text with no repercussion, especially right next to me, the caucasity. I HATE how even in positions of power my opinions are pushed to the side. I hate how some of my peers and professors look at me when I express these concerns. I hate that I’m made to feel like I’m being difficult when I address these concerns, simply request that my name be pronounced correctly or when I go to the dining hall.. that mind you is a service I am paying for, and am made to feel like I’m being difficult for asking what type of meat is used in the food. I hate that there are so many people that can relate.

What was my tipping point? Was it the series of microaggressions or the chapters of aggressions? I guess we’ll never know.

I’m not new to this. And maybe that’s the problem. I’ve gotten so accustomed to REAL diversity that now that I am forced to navigate this watered-down attempt at diversity, I don’t even know where to start. Quite frankly, I’m flabbergasted.

I also want to address something else. It’s very sad that I need to write a blog post about this, but somebody’s gotta say it: Islam is not a race. If you didn’t know now you know. There are so many different types of Muslims from various paths of life. Islam is not a religion exclusively for Desi’s or Arabs. There are Muslims everywhere, but if we were talking about majority Muslim population nations, they expand far beyond southeast Asia and the Middle East. I say this because I am SICK and TIRED of the erasure of our brothers and sisters in Sudan, Malaysia, The Gambia, Mali, Chad, Indonesia, Senegal, Turkey, Somalia, Nigeria, Mauritania, etc.

I also am SICK and TIRED of the perpetuation of the automatic assumption that Muslims who are of African descent must have reverted or their parents reverted. There’s nothing wrong with being a revert, in fact, the first generation of believers were reverts. My trife with this issue occurs when the history of Black people and Islam is being discussed, [some] individuals who claim to be scholars spread wrong information or completely disregard the fact that Islam is not a new phenomenon in the Black community.

My final grievance is regarding duas. Personally, I think when duas are made to grant justice to our Muslim Brothers and Sisters who are being oppressed worldwide, it’s either all or nothing. Every dua its: pray for our brothers and sisters in Syria, Afghanistan, Palestine, and even Iraq and Iran ( as we should)… but what about our brothers and sisters in Sudan being murdered in cold blood for standing up for themselves, why aren’t we making dua for them in our gatherings? What about our Rohingya brothers and sisters displaced from their homes and violated in unspeakable ways, or our brothers and sisters being oppressed in Chinese concentration camps as I write this. We cannot pick and choose the causes that we support and pray for. Nor can we as an Ummah continue to live in ignorance.

Quite honestly it’s the audacity for me. I would like to end with these final remarks: 1. As the majority, you can NEVER establish what diversity is and isn’t. 2. The mute/ block button and I are best friends, just keep that in mind.

ANYWAYS, If you would like to give zakat to various Muslim communities, I’ve attached some below and will be updating it as time goes on.

Donate to Ethiopia

Donate to orphans of Yemen

Donate to Namibia

Stand up

” How did we get here “

Unless you live under a rock, then I’m sure by now you’ve heard of the manicure currently taking place in Sudan. It’s more than the original media presentation of it just being a protest for bread. It’s more than the internet being shut down for a while in Sudan. As of now the unofficial death toll of the recent massacre is 100. 100 brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, cousins, etc who simply got tired of accepting the governments’ bs decided to stand together and PEACEFULLY protest. And what do they get? Killed and then dumped in the Nile river for dead. What many don’t know is that, like all issues that eventually surface to the top, this killing spree has been going on for a while, almost a decade actually. It’s sad that we live in a world where common human empathy is too much to ask. We have to wait til the problem is out of hand, until 10-year-olds, almost as old as the conflict itself, are raped everyday. Until we see our friends, families, neighbors, and teachers being killed. Until an Instagram hashtag becomes trendy before we realize we have a problem. Even then now that we’ve unraveled the problem: what is the solution. How do we possibly come back from this. The answer is simple: we stand up.

” retweeting or changing your profile picture is a good start but not enough “

We can not just retweet, repost, or screenshot our problems away and then sit down and hope for the best. When has hoping for the best ever got us anywhere? Did that allow women to be able to vote, did that provide education for African American children, did that start the multimillionaire corporation we know today to be Apple. You know why you’ve never heard of a success story that involved just hoping for the best, because nothing came out of it.

So congratulations you’ve changed your Instagram profile picture to blue, reposted the hashtag all over your Snapchat, and your twitter feed has taken on the role of a 24hr news coverage, but the government is still abusing power and people are still dying, so what now.

” we must stand up “

Why?

Because

Children are starving in Yemen

Because

Girls are being kidnapped, extorted, and rapped in northern Nigeria

Because

Flint, Michigan still doesn’t have clean water, a WHOLE 5 years later

Because

An UNBORN child has more rights than a LIVING African American in America

Because

5 boys were accused of committing a crime beyond the scope of their age simply because of the color of their skin. But only received justice because a MURDER has more compassion for them than the police. But I digress

Because

After escaping one cage by finally receiving victory against their oppressor, the Sudanese people have landed in another cage

Because

They no longer can stand for themselves; with the internet being cut and all

So If we don’t stand for them who will

“I have my own problems”

I know that we all have our own problems, so why should we worry about other peoples problems. But you need to understand that :

1. In the grand scheme of things, your life may suck, you may have problems of your own, but it could be much worse. The worse alternative is a reality for many.

2. If you don’t care for any other reason just know that if you continue to ignore it: other peoples problems can and WILL become your own. So what’s it going to be

Besides, compassion is the greatest form of love humans have to offer

how can i make a difference?

We’ve unraveled the problem so what’s the solution? We’ve already established the fact that we may not be able to go to Sudan and solve the conflict so why not pitch it to the people who actually can.

George Clooney, whom actually had been working in South Sudan since 2006 and has been advocating since then for action to be taken, wrote an essay in Politico explaining why Congress should act and how they can help the people of Sudan. But if we’ve learned anything from WW2 it’s that if we wait for Congress to reply to that it will cost us big time.

So here’s what you can do :

Call your member of Congress

• Call 202-224-3121. State your zip code. When connected, tell them you support helping the people of Sudan or send them George Clooney’s essay.

Text your members of Congress

• Use ResistBot to text your members of Congress. Text RESIST to 50409 and it will help you contact your elected officials and tell them to help the people of Sudan.

Give to UNICEF

• UNICEF, which is working to help the children displaced by the conflict. Donate here

Donate

• Donate to Save the Children, which has been working in Sudan since 1984. Donate here. If you prefer the International Rescue Committee, it has been in Sudan since 1989 fighting malnutrition and helping displaced families. Donate here

Sign the petition

Sign this Change.org petition demanding that “The UN must investigate the 3rd of June human rights violations in Sudan by the Military.”

Pray

Regardless of what faith you may or may not identify with, I truly believe that prayer is powerful & that My Lord has not forsaken us. I wish you all peace, love, and safety.

If we were in a similar situation wouldn’t we want to be spoken for. To be fought for. To have others stand up for us. So stand up, tall and proud. And if you take nothing else away from this, know this :

If you stand for nothing, you WILL fall for anything.

That is all for today. I hope you all have a marvelous day

#PRAY4SUDAN

Yours truly,

Olamide

Were not there yet, but it’s fine

You ever hear something so much that you start to believe it : whether it be good or bad. They say ignorance is bliss, which to a certain extent is true. But at the same time ignorance is what stops people from learning. You’re comfortable which momentarily feels good, but when were comfortable we’re not learning. And i love learning so i’m going to stop being comfortable.

” Motivation is what drives, but self discipline is what keeps you going. ” – life moto learned through experience

And this is definitely an aspect the majority of self-help, motivational blogs, self-betterment, and even informant blogs leave out. It’s like : “ Here’s the problem. If you’re lucky you might get an answer to the problem, but you’re going to have to figure out on your own how to keep going in order to achieve your end goal and beyond. You might not make it far because i haven’t really told you how to keep it pushing after, but i’ve done my part,good luck “

Apologies if you feel I’ve abandoned you on this self betterment journey. But at the same time this break was necessary due to the fact that I’ve just been in a really odd writing funk, where if i don’t feel a spark then i won’t write. Or i just feel like what i have to say isn’t as important. Which leads me back to how what you feed your soul or what you constantly hear IS what you will believe. I just wanted this space to be perfect to the point that i forgot that literally nobody cares (jk). I forgot the original purpose and intentions for why i write in the first place.

So I checked myself, went through my whole Kubler-Ross process

*Insert virtual woah* with the big words. And we’re back

So conclusion?

We’re not there yet. As individuals, As a community, As a society, As a race, You name it.

But that’s honestly fine because it’s important to remember that we’re all masterpieces in progress.

That’s it for today’s post. Stay tuned for new content and the next post. Peace & love

Yours truly,

♥ Ola

2018 : Stop With the Shenanigans

” Don’t allow the inevitable presence of clouds to dismiss the fact that the sun still shines even on the darkest of days ” – z.o.o

” It’s a bad day not a bad life ”

” May the flowers remind us why the rain was so necessary “

From the three months of January with the internet conceding to natural selection by eating Tide Pods [ speaking of pods can we talk about the air pods bafoonery ] to the tragedies of valentines day [
Stoneman Douglas High School,, r.i.p. ] to bring light to the ever growing gun control issue and then the release of our ever beloved ‘ Black Panther ‘ 2018 was already off to an unsure start, but even then 2018 was definitely an interesting year. As we go into the new year let us reflect.

Where to even begin. Leave it in the dustbin!

1.Wakanda forever

An African wears traditional clothes : wakanda forever. Eats Jollof Rice : wakanda forever. Listens to Afrobeats : wakanda forever. Gets married : wakanda forever. Opens mouth : wakanda forever. Are you cursed, what is your problem. It’s just funny because 1. when we call for support for things of actual relevance involving africans yall wanna turn a blind eye. Did you know that you can purchase a black man in Libya for $400. 400 DOLLARS. PEOPLE are being SOLD for $400. Black people are being exploited again for manual labor, the modern day slave trade is occurring right under our noses but all you lot can think of is wakanda forever. Rubbish. Ever wonder how the holocaust got that far before people intervened, well THIS is why. Were focusing on the wrong things.

2. Stupidity

Can we just leave stupid people in our last bi-weekly neighborhood trash pick up of 2018. For example, I don’t understand why MUSLIMS are asking me if i’m Muslim, when i’m clearly wearing a hijab. Do you want me to deny it and say ” no it’s a durang “, does that satisfy your euro centrism. I think this year sets a record for the amount of stupid things i’ve heard in my life time. In 2019 read more, i’m sure you’ll retain something to help with your serious problem of stupidity.

3. Saying the N word if you’re not black

One of the most confusing things about this year was the fact that some people didn’t leave this in whatever year it started. Can someone please explain to me WHY little Jonny and Ahmed, the full blooded panistani with 0.0000000000% of african in him, mans hasn’t ever step foot in Africa not even to connect a flight, but all of a sudden he thinks it’s okay to start every sentence with that word. And then you have the ones that don’t have enough chest to say it whenever you’re around but you open snapchat and their snap is infested with it. Every chat screenshot. Interesting. The reason my block list is so long. We’re not even going to get into how you’re a coward who needs to work on maintaining your energy. Oh and don’t let me forget those who like to say ” don’t worry we use the white version” “wigga”.

4.Wave zoom in’s.

IN 2019 I DON’T WANT TO SEE THE OCEAN YOU’VE CREATED ON YOUR HEAD. I have spent too much time this year hearing the wisk of your brush against your scalp. I said scalp because most of you lot don’t even have hair to be brushing. Are you brushing your scalp. Anyways that’s none of my business, but NO MORE ZOOM OUTS.

5. Fake ” cHEak oN yOuR fRiEnDs “

Who are you trying to fool. There’s nothing wrong with retweeting it as a reminder to yourself. But why do people take the time out of their day to tweet things like “check up on your friends, you never know what someones going through” but sis still hasn’t opened her snaps from last month before we even go on to talk about ” check up on your friends “. When was the last time you asked, called, or texted your so called friend a simple “how are you”, why must it always be kakaka hahaha. I know a phone works both ways but if you’re truly concerned you WILL reach out first instead of tweeting ” cHEaK oN YouR fRIeNdS ” and then proceeding to wait til someone hits you up first. It doesn’t work like that.

6. Crossing the ocean for those that wont even jump in a puddle for you.

I really hope you spent this year exploring yourself in all it’s glory. If not it’s never too late. You’re an amazing contribution to the world and do have a purpose in the world. Please. And i’m begging when i say this. PLEASE value yourself more. I believe it’s very important to match energy. Don’t break your back or spend ages crying over people or situations that don’t even pay you mind. You shouldn’t be begging people to f with you how you f with them. You shouldn’t have to keep telling them the same things and expect them to change. Stop making excuses for them. In this new year i hope that you comprehend that : it’s not your job to teach others how to love or treat you. Just like how you treat others how you want to be treated it’s often forgotten that first and foremost you need to treat yourself how you want others to treat you. Know your worth and then add tax with shipping and handling. I know that you may just want to be loved or somewhat appreciated but if you allow the first person that seems to barely give you attention to pay half price for your high quality existence then all the energy you attract will be half assed. Like drake said ” know yourself “. Know your value, your worth.You’re worth so much more than some coons barely there effort. Don’t cross oceans for people that won’t even jump in a puddle for you. Period, no tampon.

Take Away

Tommorow, January 1st 2019 is your new beginning. I know it sounds cheesy, but this truly is your chance to begin again. I know it’s literally just a new calendar change but by the end of the year when you reflect on the year you’ll realize it’s more than that.

It’s time to dream again, try again, love again, fight again, and win the battle again. You’ve made it this far, why give up now.

Lets all do better in this new year, together.

That is all. Know your worth, add tax with shipping and handling. Be consistent and shine like the Queens and Kings you are.

Goodbye 2018, thanks love. Hello 2019 ❤

Yours truly,

Olamide ♥

You Think I Don’t Know

A spoken word in response to ” #AllLivesMatter ” and ” The hate U give ” 10.7.18

Stop trying to make everything about you.

“Hispanics are being deported everyday as we speak”

You think i don’t know?

A child in syria worries if they will ever return to school, see their family again, or simply eat a meal tonight

You think i don’t know

Whenever we attempt to bring attention to any of the never ending problems the world has suddenly it’s transformed into a competition of who’s struggling more. Black lives matter has been turned into another charcoal Jim Crow newspaper comic, another way for our oppressors to mock and belittle us,  everyday a black child dies if not from a gunshot then from starvation. All lives matter. A joke. You only think all lives matter when YOU are being discriminated against. Nabra Hassanen, a 17 year old muslim girl, beaten to death with a baseball bat in the summer of 2017. Jakelin Caal Maquin, 7 year old migrant caravan child that, died of dehydration in a detention camp December of 2018. Where you at #AllLivesMatter. Notice the pattern? Whenever there’s an actual problem, you’re nowhere to be seen… but i thought all lives matter. When attention is brought to the systematic oppression and murder of Black people it’s suddenly : we think we’re more important or the ONLY problem.

Stop being selfish. When awareness is brought to the mistreatment of a minority that isn’t black we offer support, respect and don’t constantly try to cover your struggles with the pain of our own. Why can’t we receive the same amount of respect. “ What about us, we’re struggling too “ okay but we’re NOT TALKING ABOUT YOU. Were talking about the struggles of being black in america. If you’re pulled over don’t argue. Play nice. Or else you leave behind your wife and three kids. Not only do you have to worry about dying in your neighborhood but now you have to take precautions in school. Watch what you say or else you’ll come off as ghetto or uncivilized. Control your Afro for it’s luscious curls in all it’s glory may be too much for them to handle. They say it’s “ blocking their view from the board ” so they can’t ” write notes ” when in reality that notebook has been empty since day it was purchased. Don’t raise your voice or speak up when the idiot next to you keeps running his mouth in order to avoid being labeled off as the “angry black girl”. To my women with the utmost respect, intellect,, we often forget and neglect intuition can see through illusive intent,,, if i spoke like that you either 1. tell me to stop trying to sound white, 2. question why i talk like that,or 3. simply cannot even begin to comprehend what exactly i’m saying.

If i speak otherwise you call me ghetto or uncivilized. What exactly do you want from me.

But in all honesty even if i knew i doubt i could measure up to your superficial perception of how i should or shouldn’t act.

*insert cough* sorry, i just couldn’t help choking on your bs.

So little boy or little girl, yes, i just went there. For someone with the age of those i respect and the knowledge of time you don’t seem to possess much more than that. You have simply existed. I have met people decades younger than you with the knowledge someone of your age is supposed to have gained. Tragic.

You love saying that word and act like we’re taking away your own child when we request you to stop integrating it as a part of your vocabulary. You refuse to take the responsibility that comes with that word, yet still continue to use it. You fail to realize the meaning and origin of that word, yet you still continue to use it. You don’t have to worry about your loved ones making it home safely every night, yet you still continue to use that word. You don’t have to come to terms with the fact that the only time you see someone that looks like you on Television it’s either their mug shot or funeral picture, yet you still continue to use that word. But who am i to dictate what comes out of your mouth, it’s just a word am i right.

Stop trying to make everything about you. You think we don’t know you’re struggling, but why does everything have to be about you. We have been struggling before you even came here. We refuse to be silenced. We refuse to allow you to paint over centuries of pain that was supposed to have “ended” around our grandparents time. Try as you might, but we will never stop raising awareness. If you are not going to support our cause eat your fruit and drink your water since you seem to need something in your mouth.

Thank you.

I am she

Nacho Cheese – [Minding Your Own]

What do you call cheese that’s not yours? Na-cho- cheese.

Hahahahahahahaha nah i’m playing. But for real though, we are gathered here today to talk about a topic I am very passionate about and that is very dear to my heart   *Insert Hyme music*

Today we will be exploring the concept of : Minding your own damn business ;).

What Is “Business”

According to Oxford Dictionary “Business” is defined as 1. A person’s concern. 2. An activity that someone is engaged in.

So why is it that very few people seem to know how to do this. “A person’s concern” as in a person as in NOT YOU. Note that it says A PERSONS not YOUR concern.

What Is “Concern”

Now we will define concern since people like playing dumb

According to Merriam Webster “Concern” is defined as 1. To relate to 2. Be about

In other words if it’s not about you it is not your concern. If it is not your concern it is not your business. If it is not your business close your mouth and go drink some water, since you seem to need something in your mouth.

What Is Cheese That Is Not Yours?

Cheese that is not yours is not-yo-cheese : nacho cheese. Business that isn’t yours is not-your-business.

As African parents like to say : your parents did not send you to school to be doing busy body or making other people feel like SugarHoneyIcedTea. The act of expression through the usage of words really does effect people and how they treat us. What you decide say and not say could be the difference between life and death. Remember that, because it may not appear to be that deep in the moment but nothing is ever “that deep” until some sort of harm occurs or someone dies am I right. It’s never an issue until the elephant in the room blows up and we’re forced to address it.  The most powerful weapon we as humans possess is our tongues, use it wisely. ( God is watching )

[ Long story short y’all mind your own business it’ll make you a whole lot happier ]

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This is just a quick break from my self help rants, meant to be taken seriously but only to a certain extent.

Share with any ABC ( Amebo Business Center ) or Rumor spreaders yall know in order to educate them.

In the pursuit of peace, love, fulfillment, and a more educated world

 

Yours truly,

Olamide ♥

 

In my next post I’ll be discussing and reconstructing the most cliché and controversial self-love quote : ” You can’t love or expect someone else to you if you don’t love yourself first “. 

Your Amor <3

 

July 24th is International Self Care Day

Self love is a life long journey. I’m not going to sit here and front like i have it all figured out or that if you follow everything i say you’ll be alright, you’ll love yourself always, and that life will be all sunshine and rainbows.  But what i can do for you is show you the bigger picture and encourage you through my truth and sincere words.

 

 

WHAT IS SELF CARE?

According to Oxford Dictionary self-care is ” The practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health “. In other words actively putting in the time and effort to take care of ones self.

Contrary to common belief self-care is not just bubble baths and face masks. It’s much more than just skin deep. Self care includes nurturing your health : mentally, spiritually,and physically. As in getting up and going to the gym or going for that run you’ve been avoiding. Eating food that’s good for your health or just cooking yourself a meal rather than going out to eat, surrounding yourself with positivity, moving forward rather than dwelling on the past, engaging in activities that make you happy, listing the things you like about yourself, etc. It could even be as simple as brushing your teeth in the morning, or staying extra long in the shower, hugging yourself, removing your makeup, putting on lip balm, washing your face, learning to use the block button, etc.

While doing what’s good for your health, self-care also includes spoiling yourself : buying those shoes that you’ve wanted, eating that donut, binge watching your favorite series, having a movie marathon. The general gist of what I’m getting at is that self care is not just limited to just outwardly care, it’s a set of habits and routines that are cultivated to preserve mental, emotional, and spiritual health.   Like I said this is a life long journey. You won’t always be on top of the game and that’s okay. It’s okay to not be okay. But it’s not okay to completely give up on yourself. You deserve better than that. Because at the end of the day nobody will have your back like you will yourself. End of discussion.

 

SELF CARE & SELF LOVE GO HAND IN HAND

Self care is the direct result of self-love, regardless of how you express self-care whether it be physically, mentally, or spiritually. It’s honestly disgusting how society tries to teach us that loving ourselves is cocky, prideful, or means you’re full of ourselves, or that we think we’re ” better than everyone else “. Even in the dictionary definition of self love “conceit” is listed as a direct synonym. Excuse my language, but, fuck that shit! Yes i am full of myself, yes i love myself, yes i value myself enough to not feel the need to lower my own self-worth just to make you feel comfortable. We all should wear our invisible crowns with pride. And if that approach isn’t cutting it for you remember : 1. They’re not paying your bills. 2. Having haters means you’re popping. The real topic of discussion should never be: whether or not you think you’re better than everyone. Rather you should ask yourself : do THEY think you’re better than them.

To this day i don’t understand why

1. people think bringing somebody down with degrading, spiteful words will EVER increase their own self worth.
2. Society preaches self-love but when you actually start loving yourself, it suddenly turns to conceit. It’s like : we want them to be confident, but not too confident or we want them eat,just as long as it’s not more than mine.

That’s like having a crush on yourself but not being sure if you like yourself back. Love yourself Sis! Bro! Fam! whichever pronoun you accept. Because self-love was NEVER gender exclusive. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not just take it all in stride. You DO deserve love. You’re worth more than somebodies irrelevant opinion. And most importantly sharing your love with others WILL NOT EVER diminish your own worth. I don’t know where this came from but it needs to stop TODAY. Repeat after me : Appreciating other art does not make you any less of a masterpiece!

 

I don’t expect you to instantly start loving yourself more after reading this post but i do hope i did show you some light. Self love, self-care, they’re both very broad topics and i simply just brushed the surface. Just like you, i am simply just a scholar of life, on my never-ending road to success, whatever that maybe. I would love it if you would join me, at your own risk ;), as we all progress together in insight.

In the pursuit of peace, love, and fulfillment

Yours truly,

Olamide ♥

 

 

In my next post I’ll be discussing and reconstructing the most cliché and controversial self-love quote : ” You can’t love or expect someone else to you if you don’t love yourself first “. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before

Title » To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before

Author »  Jenny Han

Duology » To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before #1

Published By » Simon And Schuster

Genre » YA- Fiction

Pages » 368

Source » Goodreads

Rating » 🍩 🍩 🍩 🍩 🍩

To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before is the story of Lara Jean, who has never openly admitted her crushes, but instead wrote each boy a letter about how she felt, sealed it, and hid it in a box under her bed. But one day Lara Jean discovers that somehow her secret box of letters has been mailed, causing all her crushes from her past to confront her about the letters: her first kiss, the boy from summer camp, even her sister’s ex-boyfriend, Josh. As she learns to deal with her past loves face to face, Lara Jean discovers that something good may come out of these letters after all.

–     Goodreads Summery

What I Liked  »

I love how Lara Jean wrote everything she ever wanted to say or thought about these boys and then let them go and also how different Lara Jean is.  Most character that loose their moms at early ages spend half of the book  mopping and in a way try to get the reader to feel sorry for him/her. Lara Jean and her sisters are like a normal family. They each take turns making dinner and share secrets with each other. Though they still think about their mom every once in a while they don’t indirectly blame everything they’ve done wrong due to the fact that they don’t have a mom anymore.

Final Verdict »

TATBILB gets 5 donuts because it a unique story about a half-Korean girl whom slowly finds herself and learns to trust her own feelings. I would definitely recommend this book to anybody I know.

That’s pretty much it.

Love.

Olamide 🍩